By: Zach Fulwood
Everybody cheats. Though I would love to jump on the bandwagon and promote black men not cheating, the reality is, they do. But, they aren’t the only ones who cheat. Every single race and/or ethnicity of human beings on the face of the earth has individuals associated within them that cheat. Contrary to popular belief, cheating has never been a race related issue.
If you are unfamiliar, actress/comedian, Loni Love was on her talk show The Real and had some unflattering things to say about Black men and how they are in relationships. More specifically, Love said, “I don’t speak for the Black community by I do think that a lot of Black men, they really don’t know how to have true, faithful relationships. They think because they have money, they have power, that they can treat women any kind of way.”
She even went as far as to relate the issue of the decline of the nuclear family in Black homes back to slavery saying, “We are descendants of slavery and because our families were broken up, we still do not have an idea of how to have togetherness because our families were broken up.”
Quick point of reference, it may or may not be a coincidence that she made that point while simultaneously neglecting the fact that those same White slave owners were cheating on their wives with Black slaves whom they raped repeatedly and fathered children with.
Needless to say, her comments didn’t sit well with Black men. On Fox Soul’s Isiah Factor Uncensored, a group of Black men including famous rapper/personality Willie D chimed in on their thoughts of Love’s opinion. While there were some good points being made about cheating being multi-ethnic and not being gender specific, one comment raised my eyebrow. Houston attorney, Dennis Spurling said in this discussion that, ” Tell Loni Love that all the Black men she’s been with cheated on her because her attitude was crap and her body is disgusting.”
That statement right there is disgusting and exemplifies a bigger issue we have in the Black community when it comes to infighting. There is nothing wrong with correcting each other in public but, there is a way to go about it. What Loni Love said was dead wrong and what Dennis Spurling responded with was no better.
Collectively, all Black people will never be on the same page on an issue. There’s too many people with differing experiences and opinions to ever have a universal truth. That said, progress will never be made by continuing to perpetuate damning false narratives about our people. Just the same, we get nowhere by combating those narratives with personal attacks. As a Black woman with a big platform, I expect much more from Loni Love in regards to her messaging about Black men and as a Black man and an attorney, I expect much more out of Dennis Spurling in regards to publicly tearing down a Black woman.
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