By: Zach Fulwood
She’s amazing. She’s everything I could have asked for. He’s the greatest man I’ve ever known. He brings me so much joy and I’m the happiest and luckiest person in the world. These are the sounds of a burgeoning relationship, one that is so full of life and excitement. More often than not, these are also sounds that typically have an expiration date of about 3 to 6 months.
As great and fruitful as relationships can be, they’re often a lot of work. In order to maintain a healthy relationship, you have to be intentional about catering to it and nurturing it. Without the proper work being put in, the relationship typically dissolves but, before it dissolves, it becomes monotonous. It becomes boring and stale and ultimately leaves you with no recourse but to leave. The monotony usually sneaks up on people within relationships but, what if you were able to notice it before it happened?
Relationships are no different than most things in life. There are usually signs that let you know things are going well and when things aren’t. When in a relationship, the signs of things going sour or becoming mundane are a little more subtle but, are there if you’re paying attention.
Though there are many signs that begin to show when your relationship has hit a dry spell, one in particular is when your arguments become incredibly tedious and unnecessary. This shows up when all of a sudden, the shear existence of your partner annoys you. The way they breathe or the sound of their chew just irritates your soul and you can’t help but call them out over it without ever realizing these same “flaws” existed 3 months ago when you were so in love.
Another sign your relationship has gone cold is when the silence between you and your partner becomes more and more consistent. Just imagine going out to eat with your partner and finding nothing in the world to talk about. Nothing says, “I’m bored with your existence,” more than complete and utter silence.
The list of signs that your relationship is on the rocks doesn’t stop at two but, the point is, those rocky moments don’t have to be prolonged in the relationship, let alone the end of it. The best thing you can do in these situations is to not let them become situations. Don’t let your issues become the elephant in the room. Be open, transparent and acknowledge when you aren’t happy in your relationship. Don’t just assume everything will suddenly be better with someone else. As the old saying goes, “grass is greener at other people’s feet because they watered it.” Water your own grass.
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