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By: Zach Fulwood
Everybody loves sex. Asexual individuals aside, everybody else on the planet enjoys having sex and for what it’s worth, I completely understand why. Sex provides human beings with a feeling that simply can’t be replicated. In other words, those endorphins hit different when they come from sex. That said, I can’t help but feel like we’ve ventured off to a place where we’ve become so fixated on personal satisfaction and pleasure, that we’ve lost the true essence of what sex is supposed to be.
I think it’s safe to say that sex is to be enjoyed. Whether you believe in God or not, it’s hard to imagine that an act that’s not only physically pleasing but also has the ability to bring life into this world is something that should be done begrudgingly. Sex is something that you want to put your all into, especially if you intend to get all you can out of it. Sex is also an experience that is best shared between two people who have an emotional connection to one another.
Look, I get it. Not having your sexual desires met when you want is not the most popular thing to do, especially in an era where your next experience is a couple of clicks and swipes away. Sure, sex has the ability to turn your stressful day into a much less stressful one. It can help keep you in shape when you don’t feel like going to the gym and it can even provide entertainment for you when your Tuesday night is looking a little boring. But, is this really what we want to reduce sex to? Sex has no bounds on what it can do for you but, it does have limits on what can be extracted from it when used incorrectly.
I’m not saying you should only have sex when you’re married. That’s between you and your conscience. However, I am saying that sex should be more than just a hobby that is solely used for the purposes of satisfying your own desires. Unfortunately, it feels like we’re in a time now where casual sex is being embraced more and more and as a result, cheapening the sexual experience.
Casual sex is and has always been trash. Sure, you might have a moment where you feel like this is the best thing ever but, I’m willing to bet the feeling isn’t mutual for your partner. The feeling isn’t mutual because normal people don’t give themselves completely to a person they don’t know or aren’t emotionally connected to. If you wouldn’t expect to be promoted 24 hours after being hired, why would you expect someone to give you their best moves after 24 hours of knowing they existed? It’s true that you probably don’t have to do much to earn the trust of someone in order for them to sleep with you but, much more is required of you in order to be given their best bedroom effort.
One of the secret ingredients to consistently having great sex is reciprocity. Reciprocity is something that rarely ever shows up in casual sex and as a result, the sex is often lackluster because neither party is out to please the other. In a society where self preservation is touted, the mentality of making sure you get what you came for is understandable. However, maybe, just maybe, it’s time to readjust that thinking when it comes to the way we’re viewing our sex lives.
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