By: Zach Fulwood
Have you ever gotten into an argument? How many arguments do you think you find yourself in over the course of a week? Have you ever asked yourself whether or not the argument was worth it in the first place? If you’ve never at least questioned whether or not the argument was necessary, you’re probably a narcissist and your problems run much deeper than what I’m qualified to address. However, if you have considered the necessity of your arguments with other people, it’s time to lean into that a little more and rid yourself of the commitment to argument.
In our culture today, it is very popular to give people the same energy they give you. If you’re met with disrespect, you give it right back. Trust me, I get it. Everyone isn’t built for the Michelle Obama approach of going high when they go low. The same logic applies to arguments more times than not. When we disagree with someone, arguments typically ensue. That said, have you ever really gained anything from an argument?
The thing about arguments is that unless you’re in a court of law, they’re typically pointless. No one actually wins an argument because there’s no one there judging for a winner and both parties usually walk away feeling like they got one up on the other person. The other thing about arguments is that there is literally nothing to gain. Even in the event that you get into an argument with someone and they come around to agree with your point of view, then what? Sure you got to be right about something and you got the ego boost that you wanted but, was it worth the hour of back and forth verbal combat? I’m willing to bet that it wasn’t.
Don’t get me wrong, there are definitely times when an argument can be both necessary and fruitful. It’s just that those arguments are usually far and few in between. Instead of always going straight into argument mode, try simply having discussions with people. Because we have egos, we think everyone has to agree with us and see things how we see them which is what leads us into arguments. Whereas simple discussions allow for both parties to mutually agree to hear out the others perspectives and agree to disagree if necessary.
At the end of the day, you’re never going to sway the opinion of someone who is emotionally invested in a certain way of thinking and that’s exactly what an argument is. Do yourself a favor and avoid arguments altogether.
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