By: Zach Fulwood
I love me some love. I love the concept of love. I love the constant pursuit of love. I love everything that love brings. It’s the one thing that totally humanizes and disarms us during the trials of life. It’s also one of the few emotions that makes us completely blind to common sense and logic. Or, is it?
I’m sure you’ve heard the old saying that “love is blind.” While the premise of this makes sense, it’s not entirely true and actually diminishes what love actually is.
In spite of what Hollywood tells us, love is not this extremely dramatic roller coaster ride where the highs and lows become nauseating. Love is actually much more consistent and steady. In actuality, the ebbs and flows that we believe love to be are really stark misrepresentations of love and could easily be looked at as the absence of love.
While love is not something that can just be bottled up and sold over the counter for a nominal fee, it is something that can be developed and nurtured for free. It really is a learned behavior and the problem is, most of us have been learning something else under the name of love.
Somehow, we’ve gotten to a place where we think it isn’t love if there’s no jealousy or that it’s love that’s making us overlook the fact that we’re being cheated on. None of that is love’s fault. Love didn’t do any of that just as love didn’t blind you from having common sense and self respect. It was your desire to love and be loved that blinded you.
No matter how hard and unbothered we try to portray ourselves as, we all want real and true love. Those who don’t are usually sociopaths and well, that’s all I’ll say about that. The point is, we’re in a constant pursuit of love. Even when we find it, we find ourselves questioning the sincerity of it and whether or not what we feel is equal to what they feel.
When you say, “love is blind,” not only are you diminishing the truth that is love, you’re also attempting to absolve yourself of all blame and accountability for your actions. In order to appropriately give and receive love, you have to be willing to take responsibility for the decisions you make and not the decisions love made for you.
Categories: Relationships
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